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ace
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What are you looking for in a partner Question

List the things you look for in the opposite sex.

And tell us, if they have changed over time.
Wed Feb 13, 2008 10:51 pm View user's profile Send private message Send e-mail
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stability
trust
compassion
ambition
wits
humor
productivity
Wed Feb 13, 2008 11:07 pm View user's profile Send private message
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comes from a good family.. good values

sharp, witty

has a separate group of friends (preferably homegirls) that she can hang out
with. i mean, i gotta have time with my boys.. can't always be around her.

can cook.. way to a man's heart. haha.

ambitious and adventurous. i want to go places with my girl.

knows how to take care of herself.. not expecting to be babied all the time.

great sense of style..

and of course, a great body/face Laughing
Wed Feb 13, 2008 11:09 pm View user's profile Send private message
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CHEMISTRY.

i tend to lose interest/get bored rather quickly, so he better be interesting enough for me to stick around. i'd love to be in a long term relationship for once.

some basic qualities:
believes in God

good background/family

good morals/values
- ex) reporting company fraud even if it'll jeopardize his career

treats family/elderly with respect

at least a grad school graduate
- unless he's already established

frugal (like... pseudojew i guess)

at least 6 ft (i want tall babies)

avg. to above avg. face (i want hot babies)
- tall nose (imperative)
- small eyes (no double eyelids--slight inner ones are ok)
- small to medium sized face/head
- straight/white teeth
- strong, defined jawline


broad shoulders

is willing to sleep on separate beds when we're married (i just can't sleep with people =/)
- maybe i'll get over it. or we'll just get a humongo bed

street smarts, wit, sense of humor

family-oriented

omigod i can go on and on and on but in the end it all comes down to

CHEMISTRY.






crap i'm never gonna get married, huh Laughing
Thu Feb 14, 2008 12:33 am
tiyo
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mink wrote:
CHEMISTRY.

i tend to lose interest/get bored rather quickly, so he better be interesting enough for me to stick around. i'd love to be in a long term relationship for once.

some basic qualities:
believes in God

good background/family

good morals/values
- ex) reporting company fraud even if it'll jeopardize his career

treats family/elderly with respect

at least a grad school graduate
- unless he's already established

frugal (like... pseudojew i guess)

at least 6 ft (i want tall babies)

avg. to above avg. face (i want hot babies)
- tall nose (imperative)
- small eyes (no double eyelids--slight inner ones are ok)
- small to medium sized face/head
- straight/white teeth
- strong, defined jawline


broad shoulders

is willing to sleep on separate beds when we're married (i just can't sleep with people =/)
- maybe i'll get over it. or we'll just get a humongo bed

street smarts, wit, sense of humor

family-oriented

omigod i can go on and on and on but in the end it all comes down to

CHEMISTRY.






crap i'm never gonna get married, huh Laughing



whoa, i feel the same way
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^he-he-he :D
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morpheus wrote:


love fades.
Sun Mar 09, 2008 10:56 pm
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love doesnt fade.

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정.
Sun Mar 09, 2008 11:15 pm
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maybe thats some of it.

but love isnt some stagnant thing. maybe its not always that high rush of happiness, but it something to strive together for and towards... there are fights, bickering, but theres also lots of moments filled with patience, grace, trust, love....

my parents have been married for 32 years, and they are very MUCH in love still.

its not easy, i know, but look, nothing worthwhile is ever easy.














i dont think im asking fro much.
he doesnt have to be an extreme of anything.
as long as he loves me and adores me and wants to make this marriage work, what more can i ask for? everything else is just frosting on the cake, ya know?

i know, this isnt something easy to find. so im perfectly okay with never marrying, because ill never compromise on the idea of not being adored and loved.

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Sun Mar 09, 2008 11:23 pm View user's profile Send private message
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would you rather marry someone who adores/loves you to death, or someone YOU adore/love to death?
Sun Mar 09, 2008 11:35 pm
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depends, do i feel the same way back? at all?

cause if i didnt love him back... ahhhhhhhhh its kind of suffocating, isnt it? esp if i wasnt open to him at all; like if he disgusted me and i hated him and he gave me the creeps? thats HELL.

its the same kind of hell if i loved someone and he didnt love me back... its sooooooo miserable and tiring.

BUT, i think id prefer having him love me more, as long as i was open to it. maybe its not like perfect complete love, but... i would be willing to trust and love someone who cared for me and wanted the best for me, as opposed to always trying to chase after soemone and be endlessly vulnerable to someone who would never see me in the same way - or never be open to that possibility. its like walking into a brick wall again and again hoping a door will suddenly appear.

T_T

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sigh.


let's say i'm totally crazy over some guy, right? but whenever the guy confesses that he likes me, i lose interest. completely. and at that point, i just don't even want to talk to him anymore.

it's almost as if i have some kind of "on/off" switch in my heart.

it's so frustrating. but i can't help it.


double sigh.
Sun Mar 09, 2008 11:59 pm
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hehe, you like being the chaser~~~~~

(oops, i guess i shouldnt laugh.)

anyways... youre not ready for it. you must have some inner issues you need to work out first, so you avoid investing yourself in something you dont really want. maybe youre not ready for it, or maybe you just dont think you deserve more, or maybe hes not worth it; you just arent willing to be open/vulnerable to him. either way, if you want change, delve deep~

or, just accept it and have fun int he chase! Smile
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sigh.

i went on this date and i had a lot of fun... he's such a great guy, he has great manners, he's caring and sensitive, he's hilarious aaaaand he's so NICE. he's tall and good looking, too. has a stable job, comes from a good family... basically, he has everything i'm looking for in a guy.

but...




why do i like guys who treat me like shit? why does it feel so awkward when guys do nice things for me (shit like opening the car door, pulling out my chair, getting up when i leave for the bathroom, etc...)? why am i always attracted to the wrong ones? i seriously don't get myself.

triple sigh.
Mon Mar 10, 2008 12:23 am
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^how is your relationship with your father? or brother?

often times when girls grow up with a cold or abusive (verbally and/or physically) father, they tend to go for the guys who treat them like crap...and don't kow how to react to guys who do nice things for them because they never had that kind of positive attention from a male.
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lol!

i have wonderful parents. my dad and i have a very good relationship Smile
and my brother passed away. so it's irrelevant to my situation.
Mon Mar 10, 2008 2:04 pm
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when did he pass away? were you guys close before his death? (sorry if i am prying) but maybe his death IS relevant to the situation.

if you guys were close, perhaps you fear being rejected/left/abandoned again, so you purposely choose guys that you can easily discard FIRST without feeling any guilt about it. you chase them because it feels good knowing you can persuade someone to like you, but once thats accomplished, theres no point in it for you anymore, so you dump them before they can dump you.

or, i could be totaaaaaaaaaaaaally wrong. ^^v



and, i duno. i dont have like the PERFECT relationship with my dad, but he makes it really difficult to find good guys to date. cause no one is as awesome as my dad/brother (electra complex anyone? Ssh).

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